“Your Mother is Deranged!”

The healthiest, most functional families have two parents fully engaged in the lives and well-being of each individual and the family as a whole. One parent usually keeps track of the home…how organized and clean it is kept…and the health and well-being of the family:  feeding them; keeping them suitably clothed; making sure they are doing well in life, work, and school. The other parent often keeps track of the finances…brings money into the family, invests it, and makes plans for the future…and keeps watch that the home is safely protected. Both parents pass along to the children the skills and knowledge they will need to succeed.

What would happen if the father told the kids, “Your mother is deranged; she sleeps around and gives away your food to strangers. I’m not giving her any more money for groceries. She’s crazy. She’s not like the rest of us. You are not safe with her. We would be better off without her.”

What if the mother said behind their father’s back, “Your father is only in it for himself.  You watch; as soon as he saves up enough, he’s going to leave us. He doesn’t love you; he despises children and says you’re a drain…a weight around his neck. He’s probably got some woman on the side because he doesn’t love me, either.”

When the children hear this enough, they don’t know who to trust; they go inward and feel bad about themselves. They act out or get involved in things that provide some sense of control or predictability in their lives like a clandestine group, a street gang, drugs, alcohol, guns, or suicide.


America has a two-parent, legislative government which allows for our Congress to act like the two parents of a healthy, functional country. One ‘parent,’ or party tends to keep track of the health, education, and well-being of the American people and the health of the home they live in; the other keeps track of the growth, safety, and financial health of the country and how well it is getting along with its neighbors.

Both governing parents…both entities are necessary. For one parent to tear down the other is damaging to their relationship as well as their dependents; it is a waste of time and energy and a distraction from the real challenges the family faces from outside the home. Tearing down each other Makes No Sense.

I am grateful for our 2-party system of government. I want to be able to count on one side to keep a watch on our future and our financial growth…to keep our economy strong. I look to them to keep a watchful eye on our neighbors and to keep us safe. I look to the other side to keep watch on how well the American people, especially the children, are cared for, taught, and prepared for the future. I depend on this side to keep watch on the health of our land, air, and water. I expect one side to keep their fingers on the pulse of business; the other to keep a tending eye on the disadvantaged and the weak. Both are necessary. All of it matters.

There is no reason…and no room…for the two parents of any family to discredit or attempt to destroy each other; that’s stupid. Any single parent will tell you:  no one person can do it well, alone. The whole family suffers if one parent dies, leaves, or does not contribute. The scope of life is too big; the responsibilities must be shared.

So, you two, stop tearing each other down, come to the table, and talk; there’s work to be done.

(I borrowed the photo at the top from the Rand Corporation; I hope they will allow me to use it.  It was the best depiction of what I am trying to convey available.)



Our ‘Two Parent’ Government

In any household or country, it is important that there be two perspectives (more, if required*).  In a country like ours, one perspective is needed to be mindful of the needs of business and growth; one is needed to be mindful of the needs of the disadvantaged and the environment.
The best governance comes from conversations involving both perspectives.  Neither should strive for the destruction or even the weakening of the other.  Both are necessary.  If one is destroyed, the other is left with the responsibility of tending to all of it…the ‘Single Parent’ government.
If you’ve been a single parent, you know what I’m talking about.  The strongest families have two parents, one mission, two perspectives.  Would you ever advise a father to discredit or beat down the mother?  What happens to the security of the children when they hear their mother constantly insulting and blaming the father?  Constant bickering is what drives the children to turn inward and feel bad about themselves… and act out.
Democrats should be grateful that the Republicans are shouldering their responsibility to represent business and those who have money to build.  Likewise, Republicans should be glad that the Democrats are keeping an eye on the needs of the disadvantaged and the environment because they can’t do all of it; the scope is too big and the responsibility must be shared.
Thank you both…Republicans and Democrats.  Now…let’s talk…
*   If a third party gains significant support, it means one of the two ‘parents’ needs to widen the margins of its concern and should be willing to do so because those are voters/contributers hanging out, looking for a suitable home.
(I borrowed the image from the web.)